Sexual Identity vs. Sexual Orientation

Everyone, regardless of gender, has a sexual identity: an understanding of yourself in regards to who you are sexually or romantically attracted to. Often, this gets confused with sexual orientation: the physical proof of who you are attracted to romantically or sexually. Often, these two terms can mean the same thing!

Confusing? For a lot of people, it can be! Think of it this way: 

A person is heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual or asexual (asexuality still being a debated term). If a male tells another person and/or believes that he is a heterosexual (attracted to the opposite sex), that is his sexual identity. However, after identifying as heterosexual, if that same male is in fact physically or romantically attracted to other men (homosexual), his sexual orientation is different to his sexual identity.

After that brief clearing up of facts, I must say…. why split hairs? Does it really matter if we can actually explain the difference between these terms? Will it change or help to develop either one if we understand what they mean? Honestly, I doubt it. I am sure that there are definitely organizations and medical practitioners out there who would happily debate back and forth on the issue, but I am also sure that the majority of people, with full understanding of these terms, are still going to go out and get their erections over the same people!

Over the years, I have discussed these things with friends and acquaintances that fall under all of the different sexual identity or orientation brackets, and even though we can all logically and rationally discuss… ultimately, no one cares. I know that when I am out and about, enjoying nightlife and being a sociable human being, and I see someone that I am attracted to, the last thing I am worrying about is whether or not I am lying to myself or fighting my own bodily urges (I never fight my urges, and neither should you!) Why (potentially) create extra problems and sources of stress for ourselves? Why not instead…. Just have sex and be happy?

In short: sexual identity is the end result of you determining who you believe makes your wang wobble or your cookie crumble, and sexual orientation is which gender/s your naughty bits respond to!

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Sexual Identity vs. Sexual Orientation

Ejaculate More, Have Less Prostate Cancer Risk

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Good news guys, you can now decrease your chance of prostate cancer by simply ejaculating more and of course more regularly! that is the whole message of this post! I was reading this article that was emailed to me a while ago, from earlier 2016, about a study published in journal of European Urology.

This was a huge research derived from a prospective study that provides the strongest evidence to date of a beneficial role of ejaculation in prevention of prostate cancer. Above thirty thousand men were studied over 18-year with follow-up assessment and evaluation. After a massive and complex statistical analysis, the results are suggesting that relative risk of prostate cancer are reduced in men who ejaculated at least 21 times a month than in those who ejaculated four to seven times a month!

I know this seems quite hard and farfetched, still the final message of the study was, more pronounced risk reduction in high-frequency ejaculators than in lower-frequency ejaculators. So, start having more sex, masturbate a lot and do what you think is appropriate to do achieve those life saving ejaculations.

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Reference: Jennifer R. Rider, et al. Ejaculation Frequency and Risk of Prostate Cancer: Updated Results with an Additional Decade of Follow-up. European Urology, March 2016